Men, it’s time to take a stand.


I went to church recently and I must say I enjoyed it. My son and his girlfriend invited me. It was the first time in a long while my two boys were with me at church at the same time. While sitting in the parking lot waiting for service time, I watched folks pour in. Time and time again, I saw mothers laddened with diaper bags and children on their hips or holding their hands. There was no father in sight! To be honest it was a sad sight and gave me a lonely feeling.

Father’s who don’t assist the mother in teaching the children about God is rebelling against biblical teachings. It is the fathers job to make sure the children are taught about God. Unfortunately all too often the task falls to the mother or the child would never know what a Godly person is suppose to be.

Ephesians 6:4 Amplified Bible (AMP)

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to the point of resentment with demands that are trivial or unreasonable or humiliating or abusive; nor by showing favoritism or indifference to any of them], but bring them up [tenderly, with lovingkindness] in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

A mother may not say she wants her husband at her side in church, but in reality she needs him. She needs the children to see the comittement to God that they share and what love is about. She needs to know that when she prays, she has a comrade at her side. She needs you to join in activities at church instead of sitting home watching t.v. If most mothers would admit it, they limit their activities at church to just going and rushing home because they feel badly about leaving the spouse alone.

Fathers if you don’t think the children notice, look again. Children are so in tune with what goes on around them. When children grow older, they begin to give mom fits about not wanting to go to church. Have you heard your children say, “Why can’t I stay home like daddy does?” I know it’s hard to drag up on Sunday mornings and get ready to go to church after working all week. Moms work all week too, without a paycheck. You can do it, you can make the difference in your childrens life and especially in the life of the mother of your childrens. She needs to feel your support just like she did when you first married.

The ball is in your court, are you going to run with it or sit there dribbling? Give it a try, you might find you actually enjoy this special time with the family that you were so blessed to recieve.


Pushed out before getting in the door!

When it comes to Christians, we all don’t agree. The old ways of preaching to the sinner before they made it inside the church doesn’t work. I remember being told all the rules and regulations for going to certain churches. I was already having second thoughts on if I should even go inside.

People who haven’t been to church need to feel welcome instead of hesistant. Judgement should be left in the hands of God. Everyone has the bible within reach and if they really want to know God’s opinion, it’s there in black, white and red. There are ways to bring attention to sin without it sounding judgmental or harsh. Look at how Jesus dealt with it concerning the woman caught in the act of adultry. He didn’t shame her he simply said, “Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more,” in a gentle tone of voice. The old saying about catching more flys with honey than with vinager is true. There is not one Christian that can say they live the perfect life, if they do, they just lied. It’s impossible to live in a flesh and bone body and be perfect!

You don’t have to agree or partake of what you feel is sinful but there are graceful ways to deal with things. The first step to reach those seeking answers and salvation is to greet them with open arms. Don’t look at their tatoo’s like you just saw an alien, don’t whisper to the person sitting by you about the rumors you’ve heard. They need to meet a God that will forgive them not a congregation that will turn their noses up if they come in with hair down to their toes, three colors of hair, rings hanging from thier nose etc.

Practice love and kindness and let God take the wheel from there. Don’t be a stumbling block that could cause someone seeking God to say, “If this is the way Christians act, I’m better off being a sinner!”

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Love Story

Let me tell you a love story. A kind and gentle man was deeply in love with his bride to be. He put her first in everything he did. He did everything perfectly to prepare for their wedding day.

This man’s name was Jesus. He has been waiting for you, male and female. His bride isn’t perfect though. She has failed many times, but he forgives and forgets. A smile covers His face and His arms are open wide, waiting to embrace you! His ears are listening to hear you say, Jesus, I love you, please forgive my mistakes. I want to share my life with you, I know my life may be short now, I know you have been patiently waiting for me. In Jesus’s eyes, you are now perfect. The bride and groom become one, his righteous has now become yours also.

Jesus from this day forward I will love you with all my heart, mind and soul. For you are now written in my family tree as I am in yours, never to be erased. Jesus, your judgement of me is now over, for by you I am in right standing. My Spirit and your Spirit are united in agreement. I will never be alone, if I fall, my groom will be there to lift me up. I will take one step at a time until it is time to move into my new home with my groom.

Congratulations to us both.
Your bride to be, soon.